In December 2019, soon after her mother’s untimely death to dementia, Shobna Gulati discovered a box tucked away amongst her mother’s possessions. In the box lay a catalogue of neatly cut-out clippings of every time Shobna’s name had been mentioned in the press. What was strange about this discovery was that throughout Shobna’s life her mother had barely mentioned her daughter’s career highs nor the box of memories she had filed them into. As Shobna sat in front of the box she began to think over her mother’s life and the stories that had only begun to surface from her past as she lost her mind to dementia.
The ensuing story captures the shame that these memories hold to both Shobna and her mother; secrets they had collectively buried and also the concealment of her mother’s condition due to the stigma attached to dementia in their South Asian community.
Remember Me? examines memories as they deteriorate but also looks at why we are forced to lock them away out of sight and rewrite our problematic pasts. In this deeply moving, tender and humorous memoir, a daughter sets out to reclaim her mother’s past after her death and bring it into the present.