MEET LIZZY & LINDSEY OF THINGS YOU CAN’T ASK YER MUM

We met eight years ago through mutual friends at London Fashion Week on the cobbles of Somerset House. At the time we both lived in the North of England and kept in touch now and again, it wasn’t until we moved to London, and shared respective broken hearts that we became so close.

We both agree that it feels more special because you’re more likely to know who you are, you’ve grown up, you’ve had your fair share of experience and this will enable you to find ‘your people’. At school we are thrown together, and so forced friendships of proximity are formed, we don’t necessarily get to choose our friends then. As an adult, this choice is ours and we are equipped to spot someone who isn’t our cup of tea more readily.

To show up even if the other person says they’re ‘fine’. It’s always been about unconditional love towards each other for us, whether that’s jumping on a train at the drop of a hat because you know they need you or stocking their fridge with their favourite chocolate because that might be the only thing they can stomach. Oh! And plenty of affirmations “you are truly amazing, and brave and strong and you will absolutely get through this” tends to be a good place to start!

With any relationship there can be ups and downs, and circumstances can make it easier or harder to maintain a closeness. But a big part of adulthood is understanding you won’t always be on the same page as those around you, no matter how close, and how you navigate this is the important part. Communication is key, to keep working on the common ground that you do have, keep having shared experiences. It will allow you both to be a pillar of support for one another through the hard times, even when you are at very different points in life!

Whenever we experience moments of comparison, it’s important to see it as a reflection of your own insecurities, and not really to do with the person you are comparing yourself to! We think that seeing it this way allows you to take control of it again. What insecurities are coming up, and why? And then how can you make yourself feel more confident in that? It’s unrealistic to imagine a life where you don’t occasionally measure your own success (in all aspects of life) in relation to someone else, but when these moments come up maybe actually try and build that person up even more. Tell them how proud you are of whatever you were comparing yourself to!! What a lovely act of kindness that will in turn make you feel really great, and nurture a friendship that is as supporting and comparison free as possible.

Zero judgement! We never pass judgement on one another, and if one of us feels the other might need some guidance with a tricky scenario, it’s more a devils’ advocate situation than a “you should do this”. We meet the most difficult of things with love.

Unwavering support. No matter our decisions in life, we are always there with our best cheerleading uniforms on and ready to go. We both work for ourselves and it can be hard to be your own biggest cheerleader, but thankfully, we do that for each other without question.

Giving each other time. We make one another a priority as much as we can, and understand that circumstances with boyfriends, work, living situations can all change so quickly, but we both value how consistent our friendship is, no matter what happens!